Exclusivity. 'Of course, you're my only one.'

'Do not have unprotected sex with anyone. Or if you do, protected or unprotected, just let me know.'
'Nah... of course I wouldn't.', I said.

'I wish you don't, so that we can have more fun.'
'Of course.' I lean closer to him, and give him a kiss.


I guess this can be one of the most common conversation between two who shares an intimate relationship. I reckon some (or most?) SB/SD are very honest and open to tell the truth of 'exclusivity' to another. But for myself, most of the time I found it too awkward to say so. It is almost impossible for me to have a BF and a SD (or SDs) at the same time, when both of them acknowledged it. So that never happens on me.

If I'm still keeping my SD, I will NOT have a BF. (There's other problems will involve as well....)

However, I was not 100% honest about the whole exclusivity confession, just for a short period of time though. I always think in an arrangement or any relationship, you have the rights to do anything, as long as you are not hurting the other OR feeling bad/guilty/unfair/sad about it. We all know what we can do and don't in certain moments. 'Follow your heart' haha.

It's been over a year since me and Mister starts this arrangement. I love the fact that he called me as his lover instead of SB/mistress, that sounds much more romantic... and beautiful as well. A name for a character whose role is to love, to make love, or to be loved. Enjoy the finest part in a relationship only, and forget about the rest of other hassles. Isn't that a lovely name?

Then I find exclusivity is something that will be established naturally. Why would I want have another SD when I have already had everything I need? Financial support, mentor-ship, a good friend, physical intimacy. I truly enjoy the every single meetings we had, and always look forward to the next one.

So now the conversation becomes:

'You're rare, you know that?'
I know, but I keep smiling. I love to hear those words.
'Not only beautiful,' he pointed to my head, 'with that mind, and all these perfect imperfections that I really like.'
I said nothing, but my heart has already melted. Absolutely flattered.

or

'Sex is nothing like sex with a condom.' I said.
'Of course.'
'It's good to have unprotected sex,' I looked at him and paused.
'And it's so lucky to find someone I can have unprotected sex with.'
Then Mister squeezed me even harder in his arms, follow a kiss on my forehead. Hehe


SO... confession time! How exclusive you are to your SD/SB?